Then He spoke a parable to them, that men always ought to pray and not lose heart, saying: “There was in a certain city a judge who did not fear God nor regard man. Now there was a widow in that city; and she came to him, saying, ‘Get justice for me from my adversary.’ And he would not for a while; but afterward he said within himself, ‘Though I do not fear God nor regard man, yet because this widow troubles me I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.’” Then the Lord said, “Hear what the unjust judge said. And shall God not avenge His own elect who cry out day and night to Him, though He bears long with them? I tell you that He will avenge them speedily. Nevertheless, when the Son of Man comes, will He really find faith on the earth?”

Luke 18:1—8

Believers should always continue in prayer, no matter how dire a situation may look. God honors persistence. He is the Lord of miracles and mercy and will move upon our requests as we continue to petition Him. God is love; He cares about you, your situation, and heart.

There is a caveat to this promise, however: we must pray in the confines of His will (1 John 5:14).

The Invitation

Will He really find faith on the earth?

This is a very interesting question posed. Basically, it's asking, Who will truly believe Jesus' words and by faith act like the widow through persistent prayer, waiting, and believing for the goodness of God.

Jesus will act on behalf of His elect in much greater truth and love than the unjust judge. Will you take what is on your heart and bring it to the Lord continually until he avenges you? Whether you seek freedom from a sexual addiction, are a wife of a sex addict, or need something else… take this promise to heart.

“How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand...”

Psalm 139:17—18

There are times when all of us feel a bit downcast, lonely, or forgotten. Wives of sex addicts are often prone to feel these emotions. In this frame of mind, it's important to come into agreement with God's thoughts.

He thinks about you, considers you, sees you, and loves you. His thoughts are precious toward you— endless as the sand of the sea.

Remember who you are in God's sight. He carries your tears in a bottle (Psalm 56:8), sees everything you are going through, and thinks about you often.

God, thank You that You see and consider me. Help me to know Your thoughts toward me. Heal my heart where there is rejection and loneliness. Cause me to understand Your great love for me.

So much power comes from how we see ourselves. What's happened between us and our husbands (regarding their sexual impurity or sexual addiction), can cause us to stay angry, offended, and hurt—which is where the enemy wants us to stay—feeling defeated.

“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.”

2 Corinthians 10:3—6

Fighting in the spiritual world with spiritual weapons (the Word) is much more effective than battling with our husbands, in the flesh.

We are powerful and strong because we have God living inside of us; we need to recognize this truth and who we are in Christ. We don't feel strong if we're looking at things from a natural perspective, rather than a spiritual one; this is where partnering with the Word comes in. A woman can make the following sorts of daily confessions:

  • I am close to God, and He helps me in every situation
  • I'm unoffendable and full of peace because I spend time with Jesus
  • I'm not afraid of bad news because I trust in You, God
  • I will not let the enemy keep me from seeing truth
  • Because I belong to God, I have favor, wisdom, protection, and everything I need—I am valuable
  • I can do everything I need to do today because God gives me strength
  • Grace and peace are mine in abundance just from knowing Jesus

Many wives of sex addicts have a propensity to harbor anger toward their husbands (and others that may be involved in the betrayal). It is only natural for a woman to feel this way upon facing relational unfaithfulness.

Unaddressed anger can lead to bitterness, violence, and other unhealthy inroads—but God provides a way out of this snare. Regardless of what choices a husband makes, a woman can choose to abide in the Lord.

Believers are instructed to not let the sun go down on their anger (Ephesians 4:26) and to pray for and bless those who hurt them (Luke 6:27).

Natalie recalls,

“I was at a week-long Bible camp for teens and began having horrible pain—screaming from the sharp ache in my back. This pain had been flaring up often, but was unbearable on this particular evening. A woman began praying for me; the pain worsened. She sat me down and asked if I was dealing with any anger or anything else I might want to share. Immediately, I told her I was living in a home where everyone fought constantly—we talked harshly to each other and lived in dissension.

The woman pulled out a Bible passage that described praying for and blessing our enemies. I asked God to forgive me for how I was treating my family, then prayed blessings over them. I was instantly healed from my back pain!

I continued to pray for and bless my family each day at the camp. The woman also encouraged me to come in an opposite spirit when I returned home—which I did. With God's help, I spoke kind words to my mother and sisters and refused to get into arguments.

Since I did this, my back pain never returned. Also, over the course of a few weeks, my family's dynamics significantly changed; we are now living lives of love toward one another.”

God's ways are perfect. Holding onto anger and bitterness only brings harm. No matter what hurt anyone does to us, we should always forgive, bless, and pray for the individual. This is not acceptance of sin—it positions the believer to be in right standing with God and also allows Him to work out His justice in the situation. Women should continue to set healthy boundaries and make other appropriate decisions, as needed, with husbands who struggle with a pornography addiction or sexual addiction.

Natalie had a very powerful experience that not all of us will have. Despite our individual outcome, we are always blessed when we do things God's way.